The 1Life Podcast with Behka White

Episode 134 - Parenting Tip #72: No Swooping!

Episode 134 focuses on a parenting tip centered around letting children solve their own problems. Drawing from her experience as a mother of nine, Behka discusses how the natural instinct of parents is to "swoop in" and fix things for their kids. However, she argues that this approach weakens children's problem-solving skills and fosters dependence. The episode emphasizes that children often have the capacity to handle challenges but may lack experience. Behka shares personal stories of how she's learned to step back and provide love, support, and listening rather than solutions. She encourages parents to believe in their children's abilities and offer perspective only when asked, ultimately fostering resilience and strength in their kids.

Episode 133 - Carpe Diem

Episode 133 delves into the meaning of "Carpe Diem," which translates to "seize the day." The podcast emphasizes the difference between passively letting the day happen to you versus actively choosing the kind of day you want to have. It highlights the power we have in how we respond to external circumstances and encourages listeners to intentionally define their day with qualities like gratitude, joy, productivity, or fun. The core message is to be present, engaged, and make the most of the time available by actively shaping each moment into something meaningful. The invitation is to choose what kind of day you will have, claim it, and live it.

Episode 132 - Cultivating Humor

This episode explores the importance of humor in life. Sharing a personal anecdote about a chaotic Christmas decorating experience with young children, Behka highlights how humor can transform stressful situations. The key takeaway is that life can be tough, and humor makes it more fun. The episode encourages listeners to actively seek out humor in their daily lives, promising that if they do, they will find it. 

Episode 131 - Wisdom from March Madness

In this episode, Behka explores how a powerful quote from basketball star Paige Bueckers, "The past can't hurt us, it can only make us stronger," can apply to our own lives. We discuss how our past experiences, both good and bad, can be used as tools for growth and improvement, rather than letting them hold us back. Tune in to hear about reframing your past and making productive adjustments for a stronger future.

Episode 130 - If it's Working

Episode 130 discusses an engineer's perspective on life, which is to examine how things work, even if they are already functioning well, in order to understand them better and be able to fix them if needed. This advice is applied to life, suggesting that reflecting on what is working well in relationships or other areas and understanding the reasons for that success can help improve areas that need work. The invitation is to analyze a successful aspect of life to apply that knowledge to an area that needs improvement.

Episode 129 - What CAN I do?

Episode 129 focuses on the concept of asking "What CAN I do?" when facing limitations or difficulties. It uses the speaker's personal experience of recovery from a hysterectomy as an example. During recovery, the speaker felt depressed about what she couldn't do, but then remembered John Wooden's quote, "Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do." This prompted her to focus on the things she could still do, even within her limitations, such as resting, connecting with her kids, and accepting help. The episode encourages listeners to apply this principle when facing their own barriers and to ask themselves, "What can I do?" and then act on it.

Episode 128 - Stumbling Block or Stepping Stone?

In Episode 128 host Behka White discusses how life presents us with challenges, or "shapeless masses," which we can choose to see as either stumbling blocks or stepping stones. Using David from the Old Testament and a poem called "Bag of Tools" as examples, it emphasizes that we have the agency to decide how we respond to these challenges. God gives us what we need, not necessarily what we expect, and it's up to us to use our "tools" to grow. The episode encourages listeners to consider what they have been given and to turn their stumbling blocks into stepping stones, with the help of a Savior who strengthens and delivers.

Episode 127 - The Crab Mentality

Episode 127 uses the "crab mentality" to illustrate how people in an unsupportive environment can hold each other back from success. It emphasizes the importance of surrounding yourself with people who encourage and uplift you, rather than those who pull you down. The episode encourages listeners to be architects of their own environment and to seek out relationships that foster growth and success.

Episode 126 - Raising Humans

Episode 126 focuses on the importance of raising children to be good humans rather than focusing solely on their achievements. Behka White shares a story about a man who prioritized raising his sons over raising cows. The episode emphasizes that children need opportunities to learn, grow, fail, and succeed with humility. It encourages parents to find activities that ignite their children's passions and get them engaged in life. The overall message is to prioritize raising good humans over chasing achievements.

Episode 125 - Monday Mindset: The Optimistic Frog

Episode 125 features a story about a high school volleyball coach who inspired her players to be optimistic and resilient. The coach, Nancy Zehnder, was known for being tough but also fiercely loving and supportive. She started each practice with a thought or quote and pushed her players to work hard and support each other. The episode concludes with a poem about two frogs in a cream bowl; one gives up and drowns while the other keeps swimming and eventually churns the cream into butter and escapes. The moral is to be optimistic and never give up, even when things are tough.