The 1Life Podcast with Behka White

Episode 65 - The Beautiful Tapestry of Family

In Episode 65 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the importance of family history and traditions. She references research by Emory University psychologists Marshall Duke and Robyn Fivush, which found that children who knew more about their family history had a stronger sense of control over their lives, higher self-esteem, and a more positive perception of their family's functioning. Behka highlights the benefits of sharing family stories, including negative ones, as they can foster emotional resilience and provide a sense of identity and belonging. She emphasizes that family traditions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in creating a shared history and culture, strengthening family bonds, and providing comfort and security. Behka encourages listeners to embrace their family's unique tapestry of experiences and traditions, recognizing that imperfections are part of the journey and contribute to a richer family narrative.

Episode 64 - Your Two-Edged Sword

In Episode 64 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the power of words, drawing inspiration from Don Miguel Ruiz's "The Four Agreements." She emphasizes the first agreement, "Be impeccable with your word," highlighting how words can create or destroy. Behka shares a story from the book about a mother who, in a moment of frustration, tells her daughter she has an ugly voice, leading the child to internalize this belief and stop singing. This anecdote illustrates the lasting impact of our words, even when spoken unintentionally. Behka encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences, both as the "little girl" who may have internalized hurtful words and as the "mother" who may have spoken them. She acknowledges the difficulty of retrieving spoken words but suggests that sincere apologies can help mend the damage. The episode concludes with an invitation to use our words to create goodness for ourselves and others, emphasizing the power we hold to shape our world through language.

Episode 63 -Self Awareness

In Episode 63 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the final human endowment: self-awareness. She defines self-awareness as the ability to step back and observe our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, acting as a mirror to our inner world. Behka emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in making conscious choices and shaping our lives intentionally. She shares a personal anecdote about a school cafeteria experience where she gained self-awareness about her eating habits, highlighting how this awareness motivated positive change. Behka acknowledges that self-awareness requires honesty and introspection, suggesting a three-question reflection tool to process experiences: (1) what went well and why, (2) what didn't go well and why, and (3) what will I do differently next time. She also references AA's 12-step program, specifically step four, which involves a fearless moral inventory, as a path to profound self-awareness. Behka concludes by encouraging listeners to embrace self-discovery through honest self-examination, emphasizing that understanding ourselves is key to personal growth and living our best lives.

Episode 62 - This is Your Conscience Speaking

In Episode 62 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the role of conscience in happiness. She references a quote by Leo Tolstoy, suggesting that we either strive to live in harmony with our conscience or hide from its indications. Behka acknowledges that past mistakes can weigh on our conscience and lead to unhappiness. To find peace and happiness, she suggests a three-step process inspired by AA's 12-step program: (1) honesty in admitting our mistakes and their consequences, (2) hope in a higher power that can restore peace, and (3) faith in turning our will and life over to God. Behka emphasizes the importance of self-forgiveness and acceptance of grace to achieve a clear conscience and build a foundation for happiness.

Episode 61 - Your Independent Will

In Episode 61 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of independent will and its relation to happiness. She references Viktor Frankl's quote about the space between stimulus and response, emphasizing our power to choose our reactions. Behka highlights addiction as a factor that limits independent will and, consequently, happiness. She encourages listeners to examine their own "independent will box" and consider ways to expand it, protecting their power to choose and live their best lives.

Episode 60 - Happiness in Creation

In Episode 60 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the idea that happiness is found in creation. She references a quote from Antoine de Saint-Exupery: "True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new." Behka emphasizes that creation is a fundamental aspect of our spiritual DNA and encourages listeners to find joy in the process of creating, whether it's through art, music, cooking, or any other form of expression. She also highlights the importance of being intentional about what we create, both internally and externally, as this shapes our overall well-being. The episode concludes with a reminder that creating is a skill that can be learned and improved upon, and that by embracing our creative potential, we can live our best lives.

Episode 59 - Rejoice and Be Glad

In Episode 59 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of happiness, drawing inspiration from the movie Pollyanna. She emphasizes that happiness is not a destination but a state of being, and shares her personal journey of learning to be happy. Behka introduces three core aspects of her identity that anchor her in happiness: being a child of God, a child of the covenant, and a disciple of Jesus Christ. She reflects on how these identities have brought her greater clarity, strength, and peace, and invites listeners to try incorporating these "I AM" statements into their own lives to cultivate happiness.

Episode 58 - "Make an Adjustment, Girl!"

In Episode 58 of the 1life podcast, Behka White shares a personal story about coaching her daughter in basketball. Her daughter was struggling with a new shooting routine, and Behka, feeling impatient and frustrated, showed her daughter how to correct the issue instead of allowing her to figure it out herself. Behka reflects on this experience, emphasizing the importance of allowing others to learn and problem-solve on their own, even when it's tempting to step in and fix things for them. She concludes the episode by inviting listeners to reflect on their own experiences and make adjustments where needed.

Episode 57 - Transforming Negative Experiences

In Episode 57 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses how to process negative experiences in a healthy way. She shares a personal story about a traumatic bunny birthing experience her family had, emphasizing the importance of learning from such events rather than being bound by them. Behka then introduces three-step process for processing negative experiences.
Behka applies this tool to the bunny birthing story and encourages listeners to use it to transform their own negative experiences into valuable learning opportunities. The episode concludes with an invitation to explore a negative experience and transform it into something that serves our path to a better life.

Episode 56 - Embracing Imperfection

In Episode 56 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of embracing imperfection, drawing inspiration from Brené Brown's quote, "It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts." She shares a personal story about creating a quilt from her late son Jacob's baby clothes, highlighting the imperfections in the quilt and how the process of creating it became a therapeutic and meaningful experience. Behka emphasizes that imperfections are not something to be ashamed of, but rather an integral part of our journey and growth. She offers practical tips for practicing self-acceptance, letting go of comparison, challenging negative self-talk, celebrating efforts, and sharing imperfections. The episode concludes with an invitation to embrace imperfections and recognize the unique gifts they bring to our lives.