The 1Life Podcast with Behka White

Episode 68 - Self Advocacy

In Episode 68 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the importance of self-advocacy. She shares a story about a girl who went to a nail salon and didn't get the nails she wanted because she didn't know how to advocate for herself. Behka emphasizes that self-advocacy is a skill that can be learned and provides tips on how to cultivate it:
Know yourself: Understand your wants and desires.
Learn to ask for what you want: Practice communicating effectively.
Learn to set boundaries: Practice saying no and setting limits.
Behka concludes by inviting listeners to practice self-advocacy and to help empower others who need to develop this skill.

Episode 67 - Cultivating an Abundance Mindset

In Episode 67 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of an abundance mindset. She shares an anecdote about a basketball club director who reassured parents that there were enough opportunities for all players to succeed, emphasizing the abundance of possibilities rather than scarcity. Behka explains that an abundance mindset involves believing there is enough for everyone and focusing on the limitless opportunities available. She outlines the benefits of this mindset, including increased gratitude, enhanced creativity, stronger relationships, and greater resilience. Behka then provides practical tips for cultivating an abundance mindset, such as practicing gratitude, challenging scarcity thoughts, surrounding oneself with positive influences, focusing on growth, and giving generously. She concludes by highlighting the transformative power of an abundance mindset, encouraging listeners to embrace it.

Episode 66 - Giving Space for Change

In Episode 66 of the 1life podcast, Behka White explores the topic of anger as a response to loss and tragedy. Drawing from her experience leading bereavement groups for teenagers, she observes that anger is a common reaction to grief, often directed at loved ones or even God. Behka shares her personal struggle with anger towards God following the death of her son, expressing how she felt betrayed and abandoned. However, through this experience, she learned valuable lessons about anger and healing. Behka emphasizes that God can handle our anger and that expressing it to Him is a safe outlet. She also acknowledges the darkness of anger and the importance of choosing light and seeking support from loved ones to find healing. Behka concludes by reminding listeners that God's love is constant and available, offering healing and strength to those who turn to Him.

Episode 65 - The Beautiful Tapestry of Family

In Episode 65 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the importance of family history and traditions. She references research by Emory University psychologists Marshall Duke and Robyn Fivush, which found that children who knew more about their family history had a stronger sense of control over their lives, higher self-esteem, and a more positive perception of their family's functioning. Behka highlights the benefits of sharing family stories, including negative ones, as they can foster emotional resilience and provide a sense of identity and belonging. She emphasizes that family traditions, whether big or small, play a crucial role in creating a shared history and culture, strengthening family bonds, and providing comfort and security. Behka encourages listeners to embrace their family's unique tapestry of experiences and traditions, recognizing that imperfections are part of the journey and contribute to a richer family narrative.

Episode 64 - Your Two-Edged Sword

In Episode 64 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the power of words, drawing inspiration from Don Miguel Ruiz's "The Four Agreements." She emphasizes the first agreement, "Be impeccable with your word," highlighting how words can create or destroy. Behka shares a story from the book about a mother who, in a moment of frustration, tells her daughter she has an ugly voice, leading the child to internalize this belief and stop singing. This anecdote illustrates the lasting impact of our words, even when spoken unintentionally. Behka encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences, both as the "little girl" who may have internalized hurtful words and as the "mother" who may have spoken them. She acknowledges the difficulty of retrieving spoken words but suggests that sincere apologies can help mend the damage. The episode concludes with an invitation to use our words to create goodness for ourselves and others, emphasizing the power we hold to shape our world through language.

Episode 63 -Self Awareness

In Episode 63 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the final human endowment: self-awareness. She defines self-awareness as the ability to step back and observe our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, acting as a mirror to our inner world. Behka emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in making conscious choices and shaping our lives intentionally. She shares a personal anecdote about a school cafeteria experience where she gained self-awareness about her eating habits, highlighting how this awareness motivated positive change. Behka acknowledges that self-awareness requires honesty and introspection, suggesting a three-question reflection tool to process experiences: (1) what went well and why, (2) what didn't go well and why, and (3) what will I do differently next time. She also references AA's 12-step program, specifically step four, which involves a fearless moral inventory, as a path to profound self-awareness. Behka concludes by encouraging listeners to embrace self-discovery through honest self-examination, emphasizing that understanding ourselves is key to personal growth and living our best lives.

Episode 62 - This is Your Conscience Speaking

In Episode 62 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the role of conscience in happiness. She references a quote by Leo Tolstoy, suggesting that we either strive to live in harmony with our conscience or hide from its indications. Behka acknowledges that past mistakes can weigh on our conscience and lead to unhappiness. To find peace and happiness, she suggests a three-step process inspired by AA's 12-step program: (1) honesty in admitting our mistakes and their consequences, (2) hope in a higher power that can restore peace, and (3) faith in turning our will and life over to God. Behka emphasizes the importance of self-forgiveness and acceptance of grace to achieve a clear conscience and build a foundation for happiness.

Episode 61 - Your Independent Will

In Episode 61 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of independent will and its relation to happiness. She references Viktor Frankl's quote about the space between stimulus and response, emphasizing our power to choose our reactions. Behka highlights addiction as a factor that limits independent will and, consequently, happiness. She encourages listeners to examine their own "independent will box" and consider ways to expand it, protecting their power to choose and live their best lives.

Episode 60 - Happiness in Creation

In Episode 60 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the idea that happiness is found in creation. She references a quote from Antoine de Saint-Exupery: "True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new." Behka emphasizes that creation is a fundamental aspect of our spiritual DNA and encourages listeners to find joy in the process of creating, whether it's through art, music, cooking, or any other form of expression. She also highlights the importance of being intentional about what we create, both internally and externally, as this shapes our overall well-being. The episode concludes with a reminder that creating is a skill that can be learned and improved upon, and that by embracing our creative potential, we can live our best lives.

Episode 59 - Rejoice and Be Glad

In Episode 59 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of happiness, drawing inspiration from the movie Pollyanna. She emphasizes that happiness is not a destination but a state of being, and shares her personal journey of learning to be happy. Behka introduces three core aspects of her identity that anchor her in happiness: being a child of God, a child of the covenant, and a disciple of Jesus Christ. She reflects on how these identities have brought her greater clarity, strength, and peace, and invites listeners to try incorporating these "I AM" statements into their own lives to cultivate happiness.